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It's For Your Good

"This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you." We've all heard that before, right? It's the statement that parents say immediately before they commence to punishing a child. When a child is disobedient, the Scriptures say, a parent is supposed to discipline the child. God expects parents to "train up a child in the way he should, so when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6).  And sometimes that training involves uncomfortable situations and even pain.

I didn't receive a lot of whippings growing up. In fact, I can remember one. I'm sure I deserved a lot more, but my mom and dad chose to discipline me through other means. I also had a heavy dose of honor and respect for my parents, especially my dad. I never wanted to disappoint him. It just broke his heart. So, I didn't sneak out of the house or steal the car for joy rides. I made straight A's, worked a part-time job, and participated in extra curricular activities. That was my life.

Now that I am an adult, just doing the right things in life - education, career, family, church - is not enough to grow into the mature disciple God calls us to be. Doing all the right stuff leads to a "good enough" life in the world; however, God wants us to have an extra-ordinarily abundant life in the Kingdom. To obtain this, we have to continue to grow. And with growth comes new challenges, higher expectations, and more discipline. I'm learning right now that discipline required to be a full-grown, mature woman of God, someone God can use to do mighty works, is for my own good. I continue to work on being:

Disciplined with my tongue - I can't say anything and everything I want.

Disciplined with my body - I can't do everything my flesh wants to do.

Disciplined with my heart - I can't get caught up in emotions in every situation or with every person.

Disciplined with my money - I can't spend it like I want to; I must follow what God has said.

Disciplined with my assignment - I can't step out of position because something else would be easier or give me more fame.

When we are not disciplined in our faith walk, God has to discipline us. And just as our parents said, "This is going to hurt me more than it hurts you," God feels the way. It hurts God to punish us. It hurts Him to see his children rejecting instruction and selling their birthright. It hurts Him to see his sons and daughters choose the lesser part, when they have a rich inheritance waiting on them once they reach maturity.

I don't know about you, but I don't want a whipping from God. He's already paddled me, pinched my ears, put me in time out, and taken away some privileges. When God decides to whip you, that's the last straw. He's had enough. I can hear the Lord saying, "Go get the belt." Sisters, as the Word says, "Obedience is better than sacrifice" (1 Samuel 15:22). Whatever the Lord wants me to do, I am going to do it because I know it's for my good. God has plans to prosper me and not to harm me, says the prophet Jeremiah (29:11). He wants the best for me because He gave the best for me - His one and only Son, Jesus. So, I'm trusting and obeying you, Lord.

It's all for my good.

Is there anyone else who has been disciplined by the Lord? What was that like and what are your plans for walking in obedience today? (I really missed your comments yesterday. Don't leave me hanging. Holla back!)

Your Alabaster Tip of the Day:

Discipline yourself this weekend, so God doesn't have to do it for you!

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WOW.. I really needed this today. I have been suffering thru somethings, but haven't been given the o.k. by God to alleviate my suffering. Because of the level of warfare, I have been wanting to be disobedient to God, by putting my hands in it and on it, just pack my grip and go on about my business. Man, I needed to hear this because I had made up my mind this morning, before reading this, that I am not willing to be out of the will of God. My situation is not bigger than God, and I just have to trust Him in this. Although my flesh keeps saying stupid stuff like: God didn't mean for you to be stupid, or God doesn't want you to be this unhappy, or this miserable, but I have to keep fighting. My fighting is my disciple, I have made so many mistakes, that I know that I cannot allow my flesh to over rule my common sence concering God. I know that He is not slack concerning His promises. I know that He is my redeemer, I know that He has a plan for my life, I know that God is well able to deliver me, out of my bonds of afflication.
One of the methods of discipline that God used for me was a near fatal car accident, cause I was a hot mess, in church shouting, outside of church, cussing, smoking and everything else I could find my hands to do. So needless to say, He has discipled me, plenty and I never forgot the whipping.
May 13, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterCassandra
Growing up I was never really disciplined with my emotions. When I would hear people argue or disagreement, my insides would cringe. I would immediately go into this self check to make sure I was in order and I wouldn’t be the next target. Many of these conversations had nothing to do with me, but yet my “fight or flight” antennas were always on.

At one point I became so sensitive that every conversation was personal! Living this way means my feelings were always hurt or I was in an emotional turmoil about anything that was said! Can you imagine?
During my college years, I began to realize that the world extended far beyond me. And that most of the time people were just communicating in the way they knew how. Nothing was really meant to be personal. But I blocked a lot of good and bad out of my life not knowing which was which.

I pray to keep my emotions out of a reactionary mode. If it happens now, I immediately go into prayer because I know staying in the moment will produce rotten fruit. Been there! Won’t go back!
I continue to pray for a life based in God’s wisdom. I pray for discernment and my life is continually blessed.

May 13, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterYolanda
Yes to this again. God has ended some relationships that I keep trying to start back up, but I am going to take my big girl pill and become more disciplined in all areas of my life. God is telling me its time.
May 13, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLisa
Sisters, thank you so much for your comments and for your honesty as well. I have felt over the past couple of years that I have been spoiled a bit, but in a good way. I realize that there are times when God will just allow me for a season to just have a time to bask in His generous rewards. Then there are seasons where He simply continues melting, molding and shaping and I just want to go a certain way and He just won't stand for it. Dr. Michelle, Jeremiah 29:11 is one of my favorite scriptures because it reminds me of no matter where I find myself each day and waking hour that God has plans for me and not to harm me but a hope and a future and to prosper me, even when I go through the roughest times. I had to laugh out loud when you stated in today's blog, that you can hear God say, "Go get the belt!" I was just sharing with a couple of ladies from our women's prayer ministry group about how I was disciplined as a child and how it was not considered "abuse" and I believe that because of those times when I was chastised that I knew not to try my parents and think that I could get away with anything. I knew my parents loved me because they told me and even more God loves me because He chastises those He loves. Thank you so much for sharing what the Spirit of God impresses upon you each day and along with all the Alabaster Sisters, the Lord knows my heart and how appreciative and grateful I am to you all for sharing like you do.

May 13, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterLatosha
Hey my alabaster sister-friends. Good to hear from you all today. Just what I need after a hard day at work.

Lisa - Ummm, if you don't mind, I am going to use that line. "Take my big girl pill." Don't be surprised if you see it in a video lesson. I will quote you. :)

Cassandra - I'm so glad you are back to our community and sharing. You are so honest, girlfriend. God can and will use that. The truth will make you free! What a blessing to have your life after a nearly fatal accident. That should make anybody want to straighten up, right? Praying for you on this walk, sister. Faint not!

Yolanda - You have me thinking about that song "Emotions." Those are some trickly little things aren't they. I had to keep mine in check today at work. Writing is one way I express my emotions. Worship is the other one. Seems to be working so far. I'm keeping you lifted, friend. Love you.

Latosha- Hey, take a pick of your prayer group and send it to me with a write up. I would love to feature it on the blog. I can tell you have been maturing in Christ for a while. Your words are so grounded and confident. One of these days I'm going to hear your testimony. I can't wait. :)
May 13, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDr.Michelle
Either I am gonna do it HIS WAY or NOT..."Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live! Deut 30:19 He made it so simple for us. just in case we did not know which, He such a loving FATHER HE Tells us.............CHOOSE LIFE!.......I choose LIFE!
May 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMary Murphy
Mary. . . I love you. That is all.
May 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterDr. Michelle
I know....He told me Sat AM......"Secrets to Spiritual Power" from the writing of Watchman Nee;compile by Sentinel Kulp......Chapter 26...ILoveUMore!
May 15, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMary Murphy

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